Today you'll find many couples are not having a Rehearsal for a variety of reasons. Many Officiants and MInisters now charge for their time in conducting a Rehearsal. If you decide to have a professional conducted Rehearsal by your Officiant and you have access to your venue, you'll be assured that your wedding day ceremony will go off with much less stress.
Many times the venues are not allowing for a rehearsal due to their book weddings on Friday, Saturday and Sundays. But if you're fortunate enough to have the option, it is always advised to do so unless you are having a small intimate ceremony with no bridal party or just a few close friends.
So, where do you start and who should attend the wedding rehearsal?
All members of the wedding party including bride, groom, best man, maid of honor, bridesmaids, groomsmen, ushers, flower girl, ring bearer, readers, mothers and fathers. Ideally, the musicians or DJ will also attend so cues and timing can be coordinated.
Everyone should arrive on time because we will start on time.
(A little time spent here will save a lot of time at the rehearsal).
Know IN ADVANCE who will be an Usher or Ushers (many times it’s Groomsmen) and inform them that they are to be Ushers.
KEEPER OF THE RINGS
The Best Man, is the keeper of the rings on the wedding day.
Note: Please do not attach the rings to a pillow. Searching for scissors to cut the rings off the pillow is not a memory you want on your wedding day!
The best man will need to have the rings LOOSE in his pocket for ease of transfer to the Officiant.
If using the ring pillow is to have “mock” rings only tied to it. The difficulty of “untying” the rings from the pillow from a well intended loved one could create an impossible removal of the rings from the pillow.
BRIDAL PARTY PROCESSIONAL LINE UP
Know in advance what your Bridal Party lineup will be.
It is NOT required for them to be in order by height or in “even” numbers.
Know in advance of the rehearsal where any large decorative structures (wedding arch, ferns, pedestals, etc.) are going to be so we can tape off an area to avoid.
It’s good if you can to have a few chairs set up to represent the front row, so we can judge the amount of space needed and also because we will practice seating the mothers.
If there is going to be an aisle runner, decide ahead of time who will pull it out and at what point in the procession it will be done. Traditionally, it was done just prior to the bride’s entrance but recently it changed so that the entire wedding party walks on the runner. It's your choice.
Please do NOT buy a paper runner. They are “cheap”, look “cheap” and will bunch up under everyone’s feet. They are particularly bad when used for outdoor weddings as they fly in the wind.
Flower petals are lovely down the sides of the aisle.
Why the sides?
Down the center and you have an issue with the Bridesmaids and the Brides long dresses becoming a “vacuum cleaner” sucking up the petals under their gowns as they make their processional down the aisle.